As I approach this Holiday season, my heart aches for my wife of 22 years, who died unexpectedly and suddenly last January. Memories of past Holidays dance in my head. Every ornament, decoration, aroma of cedar and baking, delivers reminders of my life with Jill. What is helping my heart heal are the people in…
How to Have Fun While Seriously Living From Patrick Williams’ book Getting Naked: On Emotional Transparency at the Right Time, the Right Place, with the Right Person “Don’t die with your music still inside you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. Listen to that inner voice, and don’t…
Whether it’s the thought of driving on crowded highways, airports and train stations, or unpredictable weather, the most common holiday stress comes from the drama and conflict of family visits. Let’s face it, family holiday visits tend to happen once a year. When they do, we reconnect with people we have not kept up with….
Early on in my career as a therapist, a young woman called me. She shared that her friend told her I was a good counselor and that she wondered if we could meet. When she arrived for her appointment, I asked what brought her in. She said, “I’ll show you.” She took off her shoes…
What is your vision? What is your passion? For a life of flow and peace, look forward to surprises, side trips, unexpected experiences, and embracing (not fearing) change. The present is about learning how the future can be allowed to unfold. Ingredients That Help A completed past An energized and purposeful present A compelling, magnetic…
Unlock the power of self-disclosure to live your fullest life NOW. We all find it difficult to be totally honest at all times, but eventually, it’s important to find the right time, place, and person with whom to make an honesty dump. In other words, to get emotionally naked. How often do you say…
Tough as it can be, geographical distance is an opportunity to build a stronger foundation for love. In today’s mobile world there is likely to be at least one long distance relationship in your life. Two years after the end of my first marriage I met the woman who became my wife and love of…
Being in a committed relationship is hard, and it can be more than worth it…unless you really like being alone and without someone to share your journey over time. After years of being a psychologist, a husband (twice) and a life and wellness coach, I have seen the good the bad and the ugly of…
We all have stress…even really good stress like winning the lottery or even getting married, or landing a dream job, can have dire consequences. So even more important than stress management is stress inoculation…much like a flu vaccine, it prevents a worse case scenario and leaves you with resources to fight the invasion of a…
Don’t you get tired of hearing about work/life balance and how to organize your time for your self or treat yourself with Extreme Self Care? Well if you are a new or recent parent for the first time, or the second time, or for the 3rd, 4th, or more (what were you thinking???). Balance? Me…