Getting Naked with Your Clothes On Video

Play is what allows us to attain a higher level of existence, new levels of mastery, imagination, and culture. When we play right, all areas of our lives go better. When we ignore play we start having problems. My personal motto is, “If it isn’t fun, I don’t want to do it. And when it…

Make contact and empathize. Trust and disclose yourself and invite others to do the same.   When you are honest with another and share what you have kept hidden or at least well disguised, it invokes what I call the unexpected turn. Every conversation presents the opportunity for two experiences. It is both common and…

Yes, the world is crazy right now. But you can cultivate your “inner chill”. Here’s how. As Dickens wrote in A Tale of Two Cities in 1859, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness.” Doesn’t this ring so…

Early on in my career as a therapist, a young woman called me. She shared that her friend told her I was a good counselor and that she wondered if we could meet. When she arrived for her appointment, I asked what brought her in. She said, “I’ll show you.” She took off her shoes…

If you want to truly be successful (and happy!), you need to get naked. I am not speaking here of nudity or physical nakedness (although that’s fun, too). I’m talking about emotional nakedness. The kind of closeness and honesty that happens with true vulnerability. Not just with someone close to you, but with yourself first…