Would it surprise you to learn that, after conflicts about money, issues revolving around intimacy are the second and third most common causes of a relationship breakdown? Infidelity and a lack of intimacy are both major contributors to the failure of a marriage or a long-term relationship. And they’re nearly always linked… It doesn’t have…
Have you been hard-wired to harden up? You’re not alone. Of all the life lessons we need to unlearn, it’s the belief that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness. Vulnerability is a strength if you put it to use in the right setting, with the right person. It can unleash the potential for deeper, richer relationships…
We’re all living with scars. Some are visible…others are hidden. And it’s the hidden scars that can cause the greatest pain in our lives…but it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to deny the experience of the pain or the presence of the scar. You simply have to give yourself permission to…
Do you have a committed witness? Wait, let’s back up…do you know what I mean by “a committed witness”…? We all need a witness – someone who will give us the space and security to share our fears, flaws, and mistakes…out loud, without judgment. But it’s hard to admit the need – and sometimes harder…
Is there an elephant in your ‘relationship’ room? There are lies we tell ourselves. And they prevent us from having authentic, emotionally naked relationships with the people who should be our closest friends and confidantes. Telling the truth is hard. But avoiding the hard truths and telling lies instead – the ones you tell yourself…
Do you feel like you’re living in a prison sometimes…one that you built yourself? You’re not alone. As a coach, and a mentor to coaches, I meet people every day who have created stories about their past – and then their future – based on feelings of shame, guilt, and self-doubt. I’ve also met people…
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Yes, the world is crazy right now. But you can cultivate your “inner chill”. Here’s how. As Dickens wrote in A Tale of Two Cities in 1859, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness.” Doesn’t this ring so…
Have you ever felt like you were going out of your mind? Stressful days all piling up on you until your brain’s spinning and your head feels like it might explode? Whenever we hear the phrase “going out of your mind,” we instantly think of it in this negative sense: feeling crazy, overwhelmed or out…
If you want to truly be successful (and happy!), you need to get naked. I am not speaking here of nudity or physical nakedness (although that’s fun, too). I’m talking about emotional nakedness. The kind of closeness and honesty that happens with true vulnerability. Not just with someone close to you, but with yourself first…
“We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.” There are only 4 secrets to staying young: One is being happy. Another is achieving success. You also have to laugh and find humor every day. And you’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you…
Another stage of life other than our work persona is the social aspect of our various life experiences. Now that I am in my wise elder years, having lived a long and adventure-filled life, I witness many around me who are also in their sixties, seventies, eighties, and even nineties who live with a zest…