As one of only a few Certified Trainers in this process, i chose to use these as a creative and fun, and enlightening way to gain access to what the client (or the group) has not thought, or said, or viewed…and let them say it out loud with a committed listener to evoke even more. These cards and processes unlock the unconscious, the un-spoken, and the unknown meanings that may be just what you need in the moment.
These are tools – they are not magic – but the outcomes and insights may seem magical and transformative, and at a minimum illuminating. – Dr. Patrick Williams
Regarding every person, object, situation, or opinion we experience, there are infinite points of view. The real challenge is to succeed in seeing points of view other than those we already know, to see things from a new angle. Change usually begins when we’re ready to see things from other points of view. The ability to do so is an important part of the growth process as well as personal, professional, and even organizational development. The ability to do so is an important part of the growth process as well as personal, professional, and even organizational development. One of the cornerstones of Points of You is the integration of the right brain, which controls intuition and emotion, and the left brain, which is responsible for analysis. This strategic combination is achieved by viewing a photo that touches our creative side, perceived as our female side, with a word describing a topic we deal with in our everyday lives, activating the analytical, or “male side” of the brain.
Our method exploits the special window of time created by this simultaneous stimulus wherein a struggle takes place between emotion and logic, momentarily “shorting out” the vigilant defense mechanisms in our consciousness. This “deliberate confusion” enables, via appropriate work, liberating us from the rigid checklists of “how it should be”, and enables other points of view to trickle into our consciousness. At the completion of the process, we’ve been exposed to and have internalized options that in our daily routine we wouldn’t have allowed to “pop up on our radar”, opening up to us more steps we can take, giving us that kick in the backside that moves us out of our stuck place.
Every photo in Points of You™ is carefully chosen based on the developers’ singular consideration of presenting the subject via a visual element that is not related to the accompanying word in any obvious way, in order to maximally stimulate the entirety of the thought system and our emotion.
The method is built in a way that is reminiscent of a sine wave wherein at the beginning, we are wide open and exposed to as many points of view as it is possible to have on a specific issue in our lives that we want to work on. This issue might be our couple relationship, parenting, career, health, or any other subject that upsets us and concerning which we want to make decisions. After we’ve succeeded in broadening our viewpoint, the process begins of gathering-in that aims us toward choosing, from the new options that have arisen, the one most appropriate to us, and to plan the actions that we must carry out to progress toward the goal we’ve set for ourselves.
All our tools and training are based on the 4 stages of our method:
Pausing enables us to exhale and look at our lives from from a distance. The pause is a basic and necessary step we must take in order to break out of the “thought loop” and our automatic functioning in our everyday lives.
In every situation, there are countless points of view. The challenge is to observe life from a different perspective. In this step we are searching for the unknown, without knowing where it will lead.
After examining all the relevant points of view we focus on insights relevant to us. Via guiding questions, we clarify which of the options that arose appears correct and most suits our individual “build” and internal rhythm.
This is the stage wherein we shift from the potential to the concrete. We draft an action plan, or To-Do List, that sets forth the measurable steps that we must carry out and a timetable for realizing our insight.