Examples of Common Boundaries – Continued
The earlier examples deal with time, one of the most frequently cited boundary issues clients want to address. If your client over promises, is frustrated with their long ‘to-do list’, you may work with your client on prioritizing that list, determining which are energy drainers, and which ones ﬁt within their goals and dreams. You may ask them to say ‘no’ to more requests or demands, or those which no longer ﬁt. This can often be difﬁcult to do at ﬁrst—a tactful way of saying ‘no’ is: “I’d prefer not to…” or “Let me think about it and get back to you.” Such phrases invite your client to set boundaries.
“Don’t pretend to care and love when the truth is you’re indifferent. Don’t spend a lot of unnecessary time with people you don’t like. Have the courage to know what you feel, and to live honestly, in accordance with what you feel, and with integrity.” ~ Nathaniel Branden ~ Canadian psychotherapist practicing in Los Angeles Mentored by Ayn Rand & mentor to Joel Wade Biography
While coaching standards about a client’s emotional life, you might create ways the client can have safe places to let their emotional self be expressed, and even help them see that emotions are important to feel, even when they are not the happy feelings. If we suppress them, they build up into stronger emotions and unhealthy reactions. Boundaries with emotions might include journal writing, assertiveness-skill training, practice in communication, or even improving one’s Emotional Intelligence (EQ).